Congratulations!!! *iphone confetti falls* You have answered a very important call. You have the honor and privilege in believing in your one husband all the days of your life.
In order to Love Him effectively, you must first Love God, and His creation which includes yourself.
Wife, with and without your husband, you have purpose. You are part of a vision. Seek God ALONE for that VISION. God will give you vision before provision. The husband is called to be a provider, but in choosing him, seek the vision God gave you because, who needs a leader that’s not headed where God told them to go?
In order to be a help meet to your husband, you are gifted with the ability to submityour gifts and special qualities to the vision God gives your family through Him.
This is important: Your husband is a man. Not only is he human, but he’s male. He’s you in spirit but he’s also totally, individually unique. He’s going to mess something up, some times. His character will evolve, hopefully, and your belief, much like the cheer squad on the sideline, is meant to be that extra push that sees Victory on his behalf.
Imagine how powerful your husband would become if he knew you believed he was absolutely unmatchable and unstoppable. You don’t have to highlight his flaws. Chances are, enough people before you have done a really great job at that already. He needs you to highlight his best traits. Be his best. The Bible calls a noble wife the crown of her husband. If you’ve ever seen a real life Crown, you’ve encountered the wearer’s essence, or power. Even in a museum behind a glass case, a sense of being and value is felt just by looking at the crown of a king.
Ma’am, your job is to be so crown that even on your husband’s worst day, you represent the highest most regal parts of who God is; this runs over and all of a sudden your man is looking and feeling like a king. Why? His essence is you and you are royal.
I am speaking to you, Wife, builder and maker of the home. Your gifts are for building your home. Only a foolish woman would tear down her own home. Your ability to cook, clean, decorate, and fill a space with your essence is a gift. Do not misuse it!!!
Ownership is important. Your marriage license is like a purchase agreement for your marriage. The word of God is your owners manual. Together, they’re quite powerful. See, you have access to your husband both physically and spiritually. You see what no one else sees. You are led to pray for things God shares with no one else. He’s yours. I need you to understand that. Once you’re married, the waiting game is over. Don’t wait for him to do one thing in order for you to do what you know you should. His body is your body. Care for it. Please him. Be intimate on every level – not only sexually.
Be the wife God designed even in the event that husband steps out of line. Don’t be an Eve, or a type of Eve. Everyone has weaknesses, but light comes to expose darkness. Be wise enough to leave the light on in dark places or avoid them altogether. Your marriage and every witness assigned to you is depending on the Light God is shining through you.
Be the type of mate you truly desire. Lift that man up, wife! Don’t ever let a bad word about your mate leave your lips. Especially avoid bad mouthing your spouse to other people! Once it’s said, it cannot be unsaid. Plus, your husband is you. You don’t want him talking bad about you, right?
I know you were sold a Fairy Tale of big houses flowing with servants and happy children, but reality is: You and Your husband may crawl alone for a long while before you walk or even have children. You may never get that huge mansion with the private chef or dishwasher. But you can become it.
Be so amazingly you that your essence is what creates the appeal of excellence. Becoming beautiful on the inside overflows into everything you touch. Beauty creates beauty. Cut beauty open, and beauty bleeds beauty. Under all types of pressure, beauty remains unchanged. Beauty is beauty. Be beautiful. Because you can. It’s your gift. Man absolutely cannot be beautiful and I’m glad. It’s not for him to be beautiful but you wife, are a sight to behold. Look at you!!!
Your timing is not God’s timing. Be intentional and remind yourself and your husband that God’s ways are higher.
Trusting God always pays off. Wife, now that you’re married, trusting God looks like trusting your husband. Again, your main role is to believe in your man! Why? Because you believe in God who made you. Because you believe in You! Because you and your husband are one! Again, belief begins in you! You can only give Him what you already have.
That said, declutter. Asap! Men are simple creatures. Simplify your life; your contact; your habits; your storage. Take everything you have, do inventory, evaluate and be willing to let some things go. You simply just don’t need it anymore.
This is big!!! Your emotions translate to drama to your guy, not because he doesn’t care, but because men weren’t made to speak emotions. That’s why God is there to listen in prayer and God gives us girlfriends to chat with. Knowing what to share, and what not to share is major. If he feels safe, He will ramble on and on and on and on, and there won’t be much mystery. But if he feels threatened or unsupported, he will shut down and become defensive which may look like: withdrawing with from you; cheating on you; leaving altogether; or mistreating you. Again woman, BELIEVE in God so much that believing in your husband is effortless. He needs your belief and support more than anything. Why?
Well, you were created for him. I know. Feminists and other labeled groups probably say I’m wrong and they can say what they please just as I can. Truth is, man + woman equals more life. More creation. More of God. Nothing else creates what Man + Woman can create. Woman was given to Man. He didn’t earn her. She was placed in the Garden that He had been assigned. Man’s priority, before woman, was the garden. When God inserted Woman, her purpose was to add, to build, to grow, not to distract, tear down and kill.
Attitude is everything. Your space literally thrives depending on your mood. I’ve never walked into a home that felt warm when the woman of the house was in a bad mood. It’s always awkward or thick. It just feels off. The garden was just a garden. Man was just the manager of a garden before God gave woman to man to add more to what already was. Inside Woman is the ability to add. Add a tude. I recommend a sweet and gentle one, but ultimately that’s in your hands, Wife.
To be Continued…
I am Eryka